I'm back

Hello to the few people...if any that have kept checking my blog in my several month absence. Whoever you are, I appreciate it. Anyway...

My parent's back porch

I am back in Beijing after my month back in the US. My "vacation" was wonderful and I got so much out of it. Fresh air every day, time around my friends and family and I got to sleep in my old bed. I went bike riding with my mom, shopping with my mom (and managed not to spend all of our money) and had long political talks with my dad.

My parents back yard

I "shot the Hooch" aka went tubing down the Chattahoochee River my some friends and despite the 2-3rd degree burns I had after that trip I had a great time. Turns out that 7 hours in the sun with pale skin after living in a place with very little UV exposure can be the recipe for a sunburn...who knew. In my defense I did put on sunscreen 2 times and the water was freezing thus I didn't feel the burn until I was dry. I am still burned a little and that was 6+ weeks ago...oops. I also drove up to Charlotte, NC to visit my best friend and had a wonderful time visiting her!

On the way back from my trip to see Mel (above, to the right) I got to see my baby niece for the first time! Isn't she adorable!

Despite my hectic schedule: working from 8pm to 4am and then sleeping until 11am or 1pm...depending on the work night that preceded, I still managed to have a very relaxing time. I did some more research on cutting down on the amount of products I use that contain toxic chemicals in them (awesome/terrifying website that tells you what's in your specific brand of lotion, shampoo, cosmetics etc: EWG Skindeep Database) and although I have been getting my hair colored to bring out the blonde which will no longer peak through in the summer (again...lack of sun) I decided I would be stopping that habit. Instead, I opted for an all natural product with Henna and although I was going for dark brown, my hair's tendency to veer towards red one out and I ended up with a really pretty Auburn color instead. I have cut down/ eliminated a lot of other things too...but that's another post altogether.

New hair color

I got back mid August and brought back with me a better attitude about living here. There are downsides indeed but I have a good job, hubs has a good job, we live in a nice apartment, we have money to do fun things AND pay of bills, we've made great friends and we've gotten to travel to fun places. Another thing I brought back with me...an ill-timed overwhelming desire to start a family. We have decided for a variety of reasons: aforementioned bills, the air here, accessibility to great healthcare and an the lack of an environment that embraces natural births and midwives that this is NOT the place to start a family, but nevertheless...it's all I think about. Only one year and change to go :)

Thanks for sticking with me. I promise not to take such a long break before my next post.

Proof of busyness

Life as of April is hectic! My husband tells me that I make my world hectic which is crap which may be the case but nevertheless…it is crazy. On the things I can take “credit” for are: changes in the way my family eats and changing anything I can in my environment that will make me healthier and happier.

We have a very American way of eating…meat constantly and not enough fruits and vegetables. Who the hell has time to eat a pound of leafy green vegetables every day? So, as I mentioned before, I have been preparing green smoothies every day. Take a handful of spinach or lettuce or whatever green leafy veggie you have and toss it in the blender with some fruit and any other healthy stuff you have around. Flax seeds, cinnamon, herbs, wheatgrass…whatever floats your boat. The end result varies on what you put in (shocking I know) but for the most part they taste anywhere from good to really yummy. Since this change we have both felt fuller throughout the day, lighter (hard to explain but like we aren’t so heavy) and have both had less cravings. I have been eliminating as much salt from my diet as possible as well as bread, white pasta and meat. I have lost 2 pounds (though I am not trying to lose weight, just be healthier) and my skin has been looking a lot better. I also found the Insanity program and we are going to try to start that! Going to be different…hope our downstairs neighbors don’t complain…I hear there is a lot of jumping jacks and jumping in general….yeah, we’ll see.

Anyway, I started looking into water filters and found a great company, Aquasana, that has a China branch and their filters are specific to the interestingness of Chinese tap water. Filled with Chloramine, it has less of a smell than Chlorine but is a carcinogen…aka causes cancer long term. We don’t ever drink tap water, opting instead to buying tons and tons of bottles of water, but I read that taking one hot shower in Beijing unfiltered water is the same as drinking 4 gallons of tap water…awesome. So, we got a filter for the shower, a filter for the bath and a drinking water filter for the kitchen. It has been great.

                In other news, my husband’s boss’s wife J is a therapist and she works at an international clinic here, which is (shock) international, and has branches in Singapore and New Zealand...and just about everywhere else. She thinks she may be able to get me some work there doing testing! This would give me actual working experience in the counseling field before getting my degree (basically unheard of!). This is in combination with the fact that one of my coworkers has gotten the police interested in the foreigners in our office and I will be working from home until further notice (yeah..now permanent). Seems to me like the perfect time to have a meeting with the boss’s wife about future opportunities.  I got this work at home news upon stepping foot in the office this morning…surprise…turn around and go home.

                Add to this my regular work responsibilities and a full load with classes, and I have been feeling hectic. Does this not sound hectic or does this sound like I overreact and hectify my life?

Should I Stay or Should I Go

1 day = Normal
2 days = Still pretty normal
3 days =Sadly yes, still normal
4 days = Starting to wear on me
5 days= Really?


...After 2 weeks of no sun and constant Unhealthy-Hazardous level air you feel like shit. No way to sugar coat it. You feel physically weak and mentally exhausted. At first you just ask yourself "Why do I live hear by choice again?" and then as you feel out the situation, you begin to ask your spouse. As a couple you are right on the edge of depressed and finding it harder and harder to get out of bed. Singapore is starting to sound really nice and New Zealand doesn't even seem real. On husbands day off this week he worked on his resume and is going to prefect it this weekend. My husband looked at me over dinner and told me he loved me too much not to try to at least look for jobs elsewhere. He says this because I am a weakling and I wear my emotions clearly on my face. After two weeks I felt worn out and mentally beaten down. Looks like our time in China will be more like 1.5 years and less like 3. 


And then you wake up to the sun on your face and all is right in the world. It starts to get warmer outside and you feel a little more able to handle what comes at you. I wouldn't say no if hubs decided we were moving tomorrow but I don't feel quite so desperate. The hard truth of it is that financially we are doing well here. Sending more and more back every month and that is before my substantial raise next month (yay!) so as much as neither one of us loves it here, it just doesn't make a whole lot of sense to leave yet. We are constantly going back and forth though...stay or go...stay or go. 


I know there are other expats out there that go through the exact same feeling and it really takes it tole. 


I strategize where it would make the most since to move next and this is what I am face with:


Singapore: I could keep my job BUT the cost of living is ungodly so basically my salary would cover rent


New Zealand: Will and I would both be looking for new jobs BUT the cost of living is better and we could potentially put down roots there...buy a house, buy cars and have babies 


Anyway, add new health issues to that in the form of a massive hormone imbalance and this household needs some sun. Spring...please hurry. 

Questions for whomever

Does anyone that reads my blog know anything about freelance writing? I am curious about possibilities for earning a little bit more money every month...Shocking I know. But again shocking, I would like to pay off my debts faster and save more. So anyone that knows of anything that doesn't involve being spam/ signing up for $5.99 a month for sketchy "amazing" job opportunities that are most usually crap than I would be THRILLED to hear about it!


I hope everyone had a great first weekend of February 2012!

My gift to future Beijing expats...

I remember before we moved to Beijing I had so many questions of what to bring, what could I find in their stores, what couldn't I find that I as an American may be accustomed to...etc. I was never able to find all of that information in one place, so instead, I gathered as much as I could from 1000 different websites. I asked a friend of mine who is about to move to Beijing what questions she has about what to pack etc and she very sweetly send me an email with most (I think) of her questions. This is not an exhaustive list by any means though, so if anyone reading this has any additional questions, just comment and I will answer them :) 

When can you not go outside due to dangerous air quality? - meaning level amounts and how often do you find yourself purposefully staying in?

The best site to check out Beijing air is http://iphone.bjair.info/ and is from the American embassies air quality control thing. The days that are good and moderate days are wonderful. The unhealthy for sensitive groups days are fine and maybe only a little hazy. With children whose lungs are already developed I would even go out on unhealthy days.  Obviously, hazardous and dangerous are the nasty days. Those are the days that its hard to see across the street and going outside (for me at least) equals instant migraine. Sleeping in a room without an air purifier guarantees a shitty night sleep in most places.  So keep an eye on the website and although they look silly, get a pollution mask. There are lots of different brands, but we like ours (hyperlink).

What personal items do you need to make sure you bring when you move to China?

If there is anything that you can't live without, like certain shampoo or organic soap, bring it with you. Those awesome jersey sheets from Target, we brought two sets of those back with us this time. We also brought our foam sleep number pillows with us. Everything that’s an American/UK/Aus good (even if its made in China) is either hard or impossible in some cases to find here OR more expensive.  So if you have to search for it in the states or you buy it from a specialty place (Wholefoods, etc) than bring it if you can. Tampons: Bring with you. They use pads here…no I'm not joking. Deodorant: bring it with you. The selection here is bad. Q-Tips: The ones in China often come undone in your ears…on numerous occasions hubs has had to tweeze the cotton out of my inner ear.

How many bags do you check at the airport when you move to China? (silly... just curious)

On our initial trip, 2 checked bags each and 1 carry on. Our Christmas trip home, we brought back 2 bags we didn't leave China with. We have also had 3 boxes shipped over the year.

Where should I live when I move to China? - this opens an entire other set of questions

I love Lido, would love Shunyi if it weren't an hour from my office and hubs (it's not really close to anything except awesome Shunyi stuff), Chaoyang Park area is nice as well. Shunyi now has a subway line and soon Lido will as well but the 1 thing these 3 places have in common is that they aren't the most convenient. Hubs and I take cabs every morning because we are 15 minutes from a subway. This means that prices are lower though…so it’s a trade off. If you want to be right in the middle of it and near a subway, I would suggest the Dongzhimen area.

Is it easy to navigate in Beijing?  How are cabbies?

If you have a driver, yes. If you have the Beijing taxi guide on your iPhone, it helps. If you speak at least some Chinese, it helps. If you don't have either of those things, get ready for some trouble if you are taking a taxi. The subway is idiot proof (thank God) so that’s a good fall back assuming you are not claustrophobic or a germaphobe. The bus system is great…if you know the line goes your way or if you READ Chinese CHARACTERS. No bus sign offer English or even Pinyin (roman letters version of Chinese  written language).

Can you get most of your household items at a grocery store or do you find yourself going to several markets?

In China in general you may have to go to several places to get everything you might want…no Publix/Target places here. They have Walmart…but it sucks…sorry but it does. Jenny Lous and April Gourmet are great though. A lot of foreign goods. We generally go there and then our meat market in Upper East Side for veggies and meat. There is a big veggie market near Liangmaqiao that has a ton of fruits and veggies and meat, great for the first two in the summer and great in the winter for the meat…since it is never refrigerated, thus the smell and possibility for bacteria in the summer irks me. In Shunyi, I think its easier to one stop shop.

Do you buy your clothes in China?  Have you ever had anything tailored in the markets specifically for you?  Cost?

I did my yearly shopping in the US. Do not expect to find high quality goods here for any thing even resembling a reasonable price. Most exported brands that are made in China export their high quality goods and keep the B & C quality stuff here. I occasionally see tank tops and dresses I like in markets that I buy but I have no expectations that they will last very long.

Do online clothing companies (Anthropologie, J. Crew, Banana, etc) deliver to China?  Amazon?

Amazon I have experience with…they ship some things. Some small books, but big textbooks they usually won't ship. Banana Republic: Yes they ship here. Jcrew: Sadly…no, so have your family ship it to you. Anthropologie: $60 to ship anything to China.

Do hair salons over there compare to the states - style, color, etc?

Haha. NO. I will not get my hair colored here. There are a few places that I trust to do it, but it is so expensive that I will not do it. Paying close to 300-500 dollars to change my hair color is just not worth it. The places that have a reasonable price are not really for expats. Chinese people typically work with Chinese hair and making my hair more blonde is not the same as turning onyx black to blonde. No thanks. I will get my hair highlighted twice a year when I go home.

What are the top 5 best weekend activities/close places to sightsee?

Chaoyang Park is great, and kids would love it. Summer Palace is beautiful and also a great half/all day weekend activity, but out of the way so not for every weekend. Great Wall is an all day affair and involves hiring a car so its great but not a spur of the moment thing. Houhai lake is great during the day for kiddies and for parents at night. Sanlitun has a lot of expat stores and is a must see shopping plaza. The Silk market is also a must see for bargain shopping but both might bore your kids in 30 minutes or less. Sanlitun less so because they can run around outside.

Have you ever eaten the "crazy" street foods you see on tv?

We haven't made it so Wangfujing yet…but its on the list of places to see in 2012. Street food in general I will not touch because its made on the side of the highway and I care about my internal organs too much to eat it.

Are there diapers?  Formula?  Are they easy to get/cheap or expensive?

While I have no personal experience with either of these things, I know you can buy both here. I would be real careful what type of formula you buy though. Every year there is a Chinese formula scandal involving corner cutting and babies dying. Buy brands that you recognize. That is my overarching advise for anything that goes on your skin or in your body. I work in the pharma industry so I can tell you that FDA (American) standards and Chinese standards are not the same…not even close. Things like lotions that HAVE TO BE TESTED in the US and Europe etc… do not have to be tested in China before they are put in the shelf. Unless you enjoy the idea of you or your child being a guinea pig…buy brands you recognize.

75 kuai for a 24 pack of Pampers

461 kuai for a big 900 gram Organic Formula

15-23 kuai for Gerber baby food

How long before you start picking up Mandarin and using it?  Do you use it everyday?  What is the best way to learn?

1 month after arrival I knew a little bit more. 6 months later I knew enough to get around and be comfortable taking a taxi, ordering food and buying what I needed. I use it everyday. No taxi drivers speak English so don't expect that they will. A lot can not read maps either, even if they are in Chinese. The best way to learn is to have a really good tutor. Group classes did nothing for me except expose me to people who mispronounced words…and of course that was the pronunciation I remembered.

What is the best way to meet others and socialize?

This is so easy. Other expats tend to be friendly if you are friendly back. We met 1 set of friends at a Chinese school's one year anniversary party, others through them and other just randomly at the gym or in the subway. I had a MUCH harder time making friends in the US than I do here.

What kind of air purifier do you have?  Is it a necessity?  How much do they cost?

If money was no issue I would have gotten an IQAir but because we don't have money growing on our inside plants, I got a BlueAir. The difference it has made in our sleeping is insane. We love our BlueAir (500 series). It was about 6200 kuai (984ish dollars). We would love to buy the next size up for the living room but it is about $1550 so we need to be sure before we make that kind of commitment. Does every expat have one? No. Would I be able to give mine away and still live here…Not anymore. On bad days we take that into whatever room we are in and can survive a really bad day.

How do you launder your clothes?

Almost every apartment has a washing machine. Not a dryer though, those are speciality goods in China. We sprung for one anyway though because line drying your clothes outside here is not something I am willing to do…we did it once and it felt like fire ants took up residence on my skin (thank you concrete dust). Inside takes a while and your clothes feel crunchy. So if you can and you have space, get a dryer. Or a two in one but a stand alone dryer is better.

How much is an ayi?  What all does that cover? How do you go about hiring one?

We have an ayi come once a week for 2 hours. We pay her 50 kuai an hour, so $15 dollars a week. If she came more often, like 3 times a week we would probably pay her less than hour. Most people pay 25-30 an hour but we leave her here alone a lot and don't want to jip her and make her bitter. She does a great job and we can afford to pay her the extra 5 dollars. We found her on theBeijinger. The agency's here charge a fee to sign up, usually 100-300 kuai, and it involves ZERO training of the ayi, zero equipment for her and zero English speaking ability. I tried it and after I paid her the fee she tried to get me to pay her more than what the agency had quoted her because she saw more in my wallet. She didn't do a very good job and the house smelled worse when she left than when she arrived. Obviously, I didn't have a good agency experience. Personal referral from another expat would be my first try.

Do you tip?

Nope. There is no sales tax in China and they do not tip. Trust me, if you eat and stay in expat places they are already charging you a minimum of 15% more than for the Chinese equivalent…no tip necessary.

Where is your favorite place to shop for clothes?  Food?  Flowers?  Household items?  

The United States. April Gourmet. The Flower Market: Lai Tai Hua Huai (next to Ladies street). No favorite…we go to department stores and hope to find stuff or we go to Ikea…or hope that April Gourmet has it.

Did you take your own linens to China from the states or buy them there?

If you can, bring them from the states. You can find them, at Ikea or Zara home, but generally it is hard as hell to find fitted sheets here.

What phone company do you use for cell phone?  Home phone?  

There is no competition here as far as cell phone or home phone providers. China Mobile for the cell phones. You can buy a plan if you have a Chinese person with you or you can pay as you go after buying a sim card. Most magazine shops sell recharge cards or you can buy them at your grocery store…sometimes.

Does your iPad work in most places - meaning WiFi availability?

Yes :) if you are near a coffee shop.

What foods do you miss the most?  What is the best food there?

You an find a decent amount here if you are willing to pay for it. There is a specific grocery store here, City Shop, and it is outrageously expensive but they have an awesome selection of western food. As far as restaurants, I like Parkside Grill (Lido), Element Fresh (across Beijing and Shanghai), Blue Frog (same) and Annies for lunch almost every day.

Are Chinese people timely and rushed like New Yorkers or laid back more like Southerners?

A mix of both I would say. Most people you meet will be on time, so that’s nice. People in the subway will push and shove you to walk faster, so that’s not so great. A mix.

Subway vs Cabs vs Buses

Depends on where your going and your level of Chinese.

Have you had to deal with dentists?  Doctors?  

Hubs had one experience with the dentist and it went well. I have had several experiences at the hospital (there are no doctors offices in China…if you need something, you go to a clinic or the hospital) and they were both good. Unfortunately, we had to pay for them out of pocket. Both of us are only covered on Chinese hospitals, and from all of the horror stories I have heard, I would rather pay for Western standards.

What about TV programs?  Cable?  English channels?

We don't have cable anymore but we have had it before. Regular cable is Chinese programming: 98% + HBO Asia (also known as HBO Family), CNN and Discovery Channel. Satellite is an option but because it is technically illegal, we decided against it.

Favorite time of year in Beijing?  Least favorite?

Favorite would be the short Spring and Fall months. The Summer is also nice but it does get very hot (and I am from Florida). Winter is 4 months of pure HELL for me because it is cold, windy, the air is terrible and it is soooo dry.

Best festivals?

Spring Festival/ Chinese New Year is an interesting holiday. It's great because you get a week off of work, but very loud because of the 7 days of non stop fireworks. They believe/ still practice the act of setting off fireworks to scare away the demons. The Dragon Boat festival is definitely my favorite holiday because of all of the great decorations.

Favorite area in Beijing? 

Chaoyang Park, hands down. To live, Lido. 

Places to visit 2012

Barbara made New Year's resolutions this year and so I decided I could do a fun version for myself...since I can say I will exercise more and eat better but talk is just talk when it comes to my motivations so...

Places I plan to visit in 2012:

New cities:

Tianjin, China

Shanghai, China

Hong Kong (hopefully…its expensive)

Yeah...I miss the sea

Beijing:

Forbidden City

Beijing Duck Restaurant

Temple of Heaven

Wangfujing (Snack street)

One Year in China Part 2

So, more than 1 month later (my mantra of 2012 it seems) I am posting the second half of my first year in China.
Recap: Arrived: November 2012, after 1 night at the Marriott, lived in a rat trap for 2 weeks, then moved one step up for 3 months while we made some friends. Once I got a job we moved into Upper East Side

Now we live here and love it

We visited places like this

Chaoyang Park

Mutianyu Great Wall

The girls I went to the wall with...Great Wall of China trip with me and 3 girls from Japan

Thank you smog

Steep stairs that they did not want to walk up :)

The Summer Palace

1000% Humidity and no makeup...

We had our first wedding anniversary

Anniversary presents

Visited 798, the art distrct

And then...

In the beginning(ish) of our second year in China, we returned home to the USA for the first time for Christmas

My dad and me 

Father and son in law

And us

I hope that everyone has had a wonderful beginning to 2012!

On the 19th I had my 24th birthday and couldn't be happier with my life. I got to see my family and friends again, I have a wonderful husband, a great job and a wonderful future in front of me.

I found this great picture on a new blog about a really heartwarming family